Communicate with Teens Using Skype & FaceTime

If the teens you want to stay in touch with are reluctant to communicate try Skype or FaceTime. My friend Barbara recently told me that her teen grandchildren were communicating less often than when they were younger. Then she discovered Skype and began to enjoy the video chats so much more than telephone calls. Being able to see expressions and changes as children grow – and grow up – is a precious gift. With video chats parents and grandparents who are separated from their children can continue to play an important role in providing guidance to teens if they continue to be available to communicate on tough issues.

In my book Learn To Video Call With Children I provide examples of open-ended questions that will get more than a yes or no answer. The questions are appropriate for all ages, including teens. Some examples are: Can you tell me what you know about that? What is the best thing that happened today? What is the worst thing that happened? What do you think you should have done?

Growing up isn’t easy. Many teens assume that parents and grandparents don’t understand them – and sometimes we don’t. It is not unusual to experience a disconnect with teens. Some key points that you can consider when video calling with teens:

1. Listen and try to understand without confronting, even if you disagree.
2. Keep your comments short and don’t lecture.
3. Ask questions to explore thoughts & behaviors before making assumptions.
4. Be willing to praise rather than criticize.

Here are some webpages with other suggestions:

http://kidshealth.org/parent/growth/communication/comm_13_to_18.ht 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hope-relationships/201404/9-tips-communicating-your-teenage-son 

http://www.cnn.com/2014/02/19/living/talking-to-teens-communication-parents/

Send me some of your favorite stories about communicating with teens using video call.
ltibbles@videocallwithkids.com

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